January 2, 2014

New Year, same ole me

so i’ve been doing a lot of reading lately- not unusual, for me. i am naturally curious, and the internet means i can look up anything i want to know exactly as the whim strikes. what with it being new year season, i’m seeing a lot of stuff about…oh, all the myriad self improvement topics. i am in the “resolutions are unhealthy” school of thought, but it still got me thinking. i have acknowledged my generally unhealthy habits in the past- it may be time to revisit those. my financial management took a turn for the worse right before christmas, so that definitely needs some attention. also (back to my natural curiosity), i feel like i need to be learning something useful. this is partly due to an article that i read on the glorious abyss that is facebook. basically, the article stated that everyone is selfish and if you want people to want to spend time with you (or hire/date/whatever you), you must have some sort of value to offer. the author requested that readers name 5 impressive (which is a bit much!) things about themselves, none of them personality traits. i can’t. so, AND THIS IS NOT A RESOLUTION!! my goal is to work on identifying and developing my value to others. 

i have been moping about not having much of a social life for a while, and i agree with the author of the aforementioned article that everyone is ultimately selfish. i generally phrase my belief system differently, as people tend to get offended when you call them selfish. I  say that most people are just like two year olds. it is socially acceptable for two years old children to do whatever they want-they’re still learning. what they (and we) learn, however, is how to do whatever we want in a way that doesn’t cause trouble. and that is my slightly skewed, very changeable, view of the world. now, to specifics: what do i have to offer??

i am a good cook, and i know a good bit about healthy, plant based eating. maybe i could take a cooking class or actually go to a veggie potluck?

i am good with languages. i am not taking spanish any more (you have to actually practice!! ah!), but my knack for languages is a thing that may be useful.

i’m (gulp) good with personal finance. or i was until the holidays, and i’m getting back on track. i started taking an MBA class, but i’m more interested in real life personal finance than company stuff. and investing is for the birds- that shit doesn’t make sense. however, regular old day to day budget planning, i can do. is there a class for that? 

(i’m shooting for five, so i may start to reach a bit) if i get back into running, hiking, biking, kayaking, etc, that will be something i can build on. i love the idea of all of those things, and maybe the way to find an activity buddy is to do the activity, instead of vice versa. 

i’m a great planner- i can throw a good party, i can plan a vacation for the masses, and i can (obviously!) schedule my work week so that i have plenty of blogging time. i may not use this skill on my real life much (for example, please note the infinity times i planned to exercise i then decided to netflix instead), and i don’t have many friends to witness it, but i’m good. 

alright- i’m open to suggestions from the world at large, and until then i will be finding free or local classes for which i can register.

happy 2014!

November 4, 2013


I just need a moment. I am in full support of just about all the rights. I don’t understand why anyone would NOT be- it’s just mean to tell people no for no reason. That said, I’m glad that the gay rights folks are stepping up and demanding that they be represented in commercials as well as have actual rights (marriage, non-discrimination…). BUT I have a hard time wrapping my head around why so. many. groups have fought for equality and there are still some that are invisible.
To be fair, I know that my work with people with disabilities has altered the way I see they world. I know that my work with mental illness and foster care has altered the way I see homeless people. But I don’t know why the gay/lesbian community is suddenly spot-lit to the extent of all others. When a company (Barilla, for example) says that they want to be diverse, they should mean diverse in regards to age, gender, sexual orientation, disability status, race, and all of the other things that are diverse about PEOPLE. And generally, when a conglomerate says that they value diversity, they are referring to only one teeny-tiny facet of diversity.

October 22, 2013

I mean….

I am reading one of my local e-news things…and I am really confused about what constitutes as “news.” I understand that my town is really into local everything- food, beer, art, music, people, you name it. However, apparently we have a shortage of local editors. Or journalists. I write about random stuff that I do around town, and I do it because I’m narcissistic and forgetful. These supposed news sources write about basically the same things, but with more names, and it’s news? No. 

It should be mentioned that I am grumpy because I’m cold and someone in my office is eating cat food for lunch, based on the smell. But I still feel I have a valid concern. If you are telling me things and calling it news, then I want to know about events and activities and the like, not what you ate for breakfast and with whom.

September 20, 2013

Rosemary + Olive Oil

As I am getting ready to pack for vacation, I have noticed a couple of things.

First of all, my dog is REALLY good about not eating my food when I put it down and walk away. I think this is probably because of the one time she ate a BBQ tempeh taco. Lesson learned!

Also, my obsessive list making and scheduling and planning and so on does not seem to carry over into travel. I mean, I’ve got plane tickets, a rental car, and hotel reservations, of course. But where usually I would have meals and activities planned, there is nothing. One concert and one postcard to be sent. My clothes that I am bringing? Actually just a haphazard pile of shirts that look like they still fit and the only 3 pairs of jeans I own. My goals for this trip are the same as they are for my life in general- find some beauty, listen to some music, have a few laughs. 

oh- and we’re going to see Big Gigantic, so obviously that’ll be awesome!

July 24, 2013

I have been mulling over my life and goals and future and other such nonsense recently. 

I have some work to do. I need to learn more about personal finance and get back into some sort of classes. I need to work on extending myself socially and physically. I need to get back in touch with my inner feminist and practice more random acts of kindness.

Luckily, I have the tools and the ability to do all of these things (barring a lack of motivation, of course). What is amazing to me, and should be amazing to everyone, is the people who, at first glance, DON’T have the physical/financial/all the other kinds of freedom that I have and are still able to DO. What we do isn’t necessarily important; it’s the intent that matters. And seeing servers and single mothers and people who are judged by “the societal majority” go out and do good and stay true to their inner beauty makes me feel both inadequate and inspired. 

So, today- what can I do?

June 4, 2013

Birthday DD

So we went out for my brother’s birthday yesterday. I drove him, although it probably wasn’t necessary. Yet again, I feel like I am doing a vast sociological experiment. 

Outcome: I need to stop drinking with the boys so much. After all, I have a house to pack! 

Off to download appropriate packing music!!

June 3, 2013


My birthday has come and gone yet again. And with it, several changes in my world.

Most notably, we bought (or are in the process of buying) a house. I knew this would make me feel like and incompetent under-educated little girl, but I was still shocked by the way people treated us. My fear was that, given options, I would have to ask for clarification a ridiculous number of times. The reality was that I wasn’t given choices. Professionals (mortgage and real estate) chose a path for me and went with it until I contradicted them. Here is what I attribute that to: I look young. I am young, but I look younger. I am a woman in the South. My husband and I do not communicate the way people expect us to, and because all communication goes through me, people don’t know how to react. After all, surely I have a husband to make these decisions for me! Lastly, and this one is self-induced, my father was involved in the home-buying process. Y’all. He’s my dad. He is there to be supportive and remember things I forget. When people started addressing him instead of me or assuming that he would be responsible for monetary transactions, I was not pleased. So. There is my view on the matter.

My husband has changed his work schedule so that we have the same off days. Yay!

2 of our friends are moving pretty far away. I’m not sad to see them go. I feel bad, especially because we don’t have many other “couple” friends, but they’re both kind of assholes, so whatever.

Not to change the subject (not that I can remember what it was!)- I have another recent gripe. When people/businesses are self-promoting via social media, WHY don’t they proofread the things they post or link to or endorse? If I think you’re stupid, or even just careless, as a consumer, I’m going to look elsewhere for that service. And I KNOW that someone has the job of doing just that.

Alright, well, just trying to get some of the random bouncy tidbits out of my head so I can function as a semi-normal adult for the rest of the day!

April 4, 2013

Restaurant Review time

So, y’all may know that I like to go out. I like to eat, drink, attend charity functions, watch all of the arts, and occasionally play games. Based on my frequency of going places, I have some standards in regards to service. Lately, these have not been met very well, and it makes me sad.

My first problem visit was on my anniversary. It was one of my favorite restaurant/bars, and I go often (The Social, which is connected to the Public House). This is my go-to out-of-town-guest treat slash if I owe someone a birthday drink spot. We arrived at around 6:30 on a Tuesday. There were people there, but it was by no means crowded. After ordering drinks directly from the bartender (who was covering for our waitress), we had to wait 30 minutes before she acknowledged us. I commented on the wait and did not even get an apology. I had another couple of drinks and got over it, but the service didn’t get any better.

Most recently, I went to a burger chain that is supposed to be “gourmet.” Now, as a vegetarian, I know which burger places have good meat substitution choices and which ones have frozen Boca burgers (no offense, Boca…). I’ve only been to this chain once (Red Robin, by the way), and remembered it as being decent. However, our served apparently was confused easily. I tried to tell her we had a 3rd person joining us, but she asked for our order twice before he showed up. As soon as we got our food she brought the check-this is better than having to wait for the check, but waiting 5 minutes for us to eat would have been acceptable. And I know some people are just awkward, but this poor girl did not smile once, nor did she know how to have a conversation. Side note-food was okay, but not worth it. I won’t be back. In fact, I had a similar experience with ANOTHER national chain (Chili’s) earlier this week….looks like local is the way to go!

Positive note- new pizza place (Community Pie) is not only delicious, but the servers know stuff and are nice and helpful. Even if you don’t fully read the menu and accidentally order something that is SSOOOO not vegetarian friendly (oops!).

March 11, 2013

Spring…is that you???

Well- I have been in some kind of mood here lately. Generally cranky and have absolutely zero motivation. I have abandoned the vegan challenge and the every day run challenge. It just wasn’t working for me. Too much self-inflicted guilt. Instead, I finally went hiking/climbing (how do you know which is which? I think I did both) and heavily drinking with my brother. That helped!

Also saw Oz this weekend. Not impressed, but not terrible. I think that is one franchise I will not buy into. On the other hand…super into Vampire Diaries right now…it’s bad. Like, losing sleep to watch one more episode bad. 

I’m in major tattoo mode. Can’t decide what I want. Something with a dandelion and a quote from either “The Little Prince” or “Alice in Wonderland.” Or both.

Also, hunting for a second job. To correspond with my hunt for a house to buy. Both of these are very lackadaisical hunts….more like a gaze, really.

2 year anniversary tomorrow- excited to go out to dinner and hiking w/ the husband. Work is generally crazy. Weekend ahead looks pretty dull (yes it’s only Monday and I’m already thinking about the weekend), but this one didn’t have horseback riding planned, and look what happened!

Off to appreciate the spring showers (aka monsoon…but whatever)

March 5, 2013

mashed potatoes..yumm!

Back on the vegan train!! Not all the way; I’m still cleaning out my refrigerator…that’s my excuse, anyway! Eggs are out, cheese is borderline at the moment, and I’m not reading ingredient lists yet. It’s a process, y’all!

Think we found a house we want to buy…I feel like I have learned SO much about personal finances in the past year or two, and our bank account is starting to show it. I’ve been reading blogs and watching videos and piecing together everyone’s “methods.” News flash: there is no magic pill (for anything: money management, weight loss, happiness) that will work for everyone! But, I’m finding the tips and tricks that make sense and work for us.

So far (and yes, I know it’s only the 5th) I’ve run every day this month! Yay, me! hope I can keep it up. My reward will be the Color Me Rad 5k on the 30th.

I’m getting SUPER excited about the Hangout. Beach and good music, hooray! Not too sold on the people I’m going with, but the more music I listen to the more I think it’ll be good. Now if only this veganism and running challenge could make me skinny, toned, and tanned just in time for the festival!

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